Celebrities, commitment, Dating, Relationships, The Love Detective

The Love Detective: Boyfriend Background Check

article-2297783-18DE2318000005DC-638_634x824Celebs started the trend for pre-marital background checks moving into the realm of the first three months – Britney Spears reportedly asked her new boyfriend Dave to sign a confidentiality agreement and pass a background check before taking their relationship further.

So what’s involved in a ‘Boyfriend Background Check’?

Private investigators verify Identity, Address, Financial Stability, Employment, Property, Marital Status, and Moral Character.

Some people think that it’s paranoid, but I think it’s crazy that some people do less research on the history of a person we let into our homes (and vaginas) than the condition of a used purse on Ebay. Think about it: Have you ever dated a guy who wouldn’t take you back to his apartment? Are you sure he’s ‘separated’, or just separated for the night? A boyfriend background check definitely would have saved me a ton of time in my 20s.

What do you think? Would you ever want a Boyfriend Background Check?

Random Musings, Relationships, Text, The Love Detective

Do Silicon Alley men have ‘Weird Science Syndrome?’


Women have Prince Charming Syndrome, while men suffer from Weird Science Syndrome – the desire to ‘engineer’ the perfect woman.

Read more: Daily Mail/MailOnline

Celebrities, commitment, Relationships, The Love Detective

Should ambitious women marry older men?


Often, stories about massive age gaps feature pictures of of Ronnie Wood or Hugh Hefner holding hands with women young enough to be their daughters. But I  was attracted to successful, charismatic, ambitious men whom I considered my peers and went through dozens of ‘Mr. Bigs’.
The ones I would consider setting up home with often didn’t consider me wife material.The men I dated either became competitive professionally or expected me to have a more traditional, stay-at-home role.’

Read more: Daily Mail/MailOnline

Breakups, Celebrities, fairy tales, Relationships, The Love Detective

Diamonds are forever. Most relationships are a lot shorter.

I investigated the often inverse relationship between celeb relationship longevity and bling for The Curse of Neil Lane.

Some people seem to believe that having a massive rock makes a statement about the seriousness of the relationship. But size doesn’t count…at least, not when it comes to rings. 

Crazy sex stories, Dating, Relationships, Sex, The Love Detective

First Date Red Flag #1: The Man Who Masturbated

It was even more shocking because our date had started out so normally. We went for Italian food, shared a plate of tiramisu and retired to an intimate bar for dessert wine. To get some privacy, we settled into a back-room sofa beside a roaring fire. Then he leaned in, I steadied myself for our first kiss – and that’s when, out of the corner of my eye, I saw it.

Somehow, while we were chatting, he had unbuttoned his trousers and released his member, which he was enthusiastically stroking like a pet hamster. “Do you want to touch it?” he asked, in the same conversational tone he’d used to ask what my dad did for a living. I grabbed my coat and bolted.

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commitment, fairy tales, Featured, Relationships

Dear Bride-to-Be, Please Stop Talking About Your Wedding. Because No One Cares.

I’m more than willing to share the love on your special day. But after reading yet another story about the rising cost of being a bridesmaid, it’s time for a reality check.

Look, I think it’s great that you are entering the Vatican in a horse-drawn carriage covered with Swarovski crystals. But I would still rather stab myself through the hand with a fork than discuss your invitation fonts.   Continue reading